People don’t come to counseling to be told how to live their lives. I think deep down we all probably have some sense of what we need. But we may need help getting past all the other voices so we can hear our own voice and identify what those needs are. I do not give quick and easy advice. I ask questions that are designed to get to the root of the issue, and to help you reflect on your inner experience and your feelings in a fresh way. This is so you can start to understand and make sense out of why you do the things you do and why you are having the difficulties you are.
While I love helping people to resolve immediate emotional crises and get up and running again, I have an enthusiasm for doing in-depth work that will help you to achieve long-term change. This type of work is especially effective if you have ongoing patterns that affect your relationships, such as difficulty with commitment, intimacy, or closeness, self-sabotaging, not living up to your potential, or the feeling that now matter what you achieve, you never feel “good enough.”
I believe we all start off life with a budding “real” self that along the way can get compromised. Often we end up with another “self” that we show to the world, because in some way or another we want to protect that “real” self, or tuck it away. But there is a great personal cost to us when we cannot use ourselves to help us know what we want or need and how to get it. My job is to help you take a look at where you may have gotten stuck, and to help you find a better process that works for you. I have a commitment to integrity and truthfulness in the therapeutic relationship.
I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice, where I work with individuals, couples, and families. My practice borders the San Jose, Los Gatos, Santa Clara, and Campbell areas. I have been practicing as a therapist for seven years. I have an M.S. in Clinical Psychology from San Jose State University. I pursue advanced studies with the International Masterson Institute, a training institute devoted to the treatment of disorders of self and personality disorders. I am an active member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) and the Santa Clara Valley chapter of CAMFT (SCV-CAMFT).